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http://apple.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=06/02/16/1826257
Okay.... I will post this as well.
There is no right or wrong way to grieve. All your feelings are normal. It is helpful, however, to know that human grief is a process that often follows a healing pattern.
Shock is the first stage. It is accompanied by disbelief and numbness.
Denial follows quickly, crying "I don't believe it," or "It can't be."
Bargaining is your promise that "I'll be so very good that maybe I can wake up and find that it isn't so. I'll do all the right things if only...."
Guilt is painful and hard to deal with. This is when one says over and over, "If only I had..." or "If only I had not..."
Anger is another big factor which seems to be necessary in order to face the reality of life and then to get beyond it. We must all heal in our own ways. Anger is a natural stage through which we must pass.
Depression is a stage of grief that comes and goes. Knowing this, be prepared to give yourself time to heal. Resignation is a late stage. It comes when finally you accept the truth.
Acceptance and hope! Understand that you will never be the same but your life can go on to find meaning and purpose.
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